“It’s not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: what are we busy about?” ~Henry David Thoreau
I don’t like to be busy. When I am busy, I don’t have the space to be, I don’t have time to think or feel, I just go through the motions of life like a robot. But that’s just me.
I was taught that busy means good. I had to do things all the time, and that was the only way. I see people around me loving to be busy, feeling proud of their business. Sometimes I fall into that trap. Old conditioning. It’s so good to be busy!! But why? When we are busy, it gives us an impression that we accomplish something, and by doing that, we are meaningful. “Just do it!”. Or it gives us the illusion that we are in control. Are we really? I see the point. Sometimes we have to be busy, we don’t have the choice. When I had my twins, I had not choice but to be extremely busy. Thank goodness it’s over!
Sometimes we DO have a choice, but we choose to do rather than be. It’s cultural. But also, I believe it’s a mask we put on so that we don’t see or feel what is real. It’s scary to just do nothing, right? What will I encounter? What will I feel? We think it’s easier this way, but is it?
When we choose to let go of doing, space is created, inside and outside us. We have the time to experience life, and to understand what is really going on. We give ourselves a choice to look within and be aware. We allow our intuition and unconscious to come to surface. The best ideas I have come to me when I practice being. Only through that awareness we can truly create meaningful change, inside and outside of ourselves.
Next time you want to do something that is not needed immediately, pause for a moment. Could you do something more meaningful? Maybe just close your eyes and take a few deep breaths? Feel and observe? Be with yourself? Give it a try. Real change always starts with you.